Common Discipline Mistakes when Parenting
An interesting topic and one that we need to address. Discipline is easy when children are easy. It can be downright tricky when children are difficult, have interesting personalities or who at more difficult developmental stages. A great article by
Here are 5 common mistakes I see many parents make when trying to get cooperation from their children; keep them safe or teaching them to behave well.
Do any of these bloopers ring a bell?
1. Repeat yourself. If so, you are training kids to become parent-deaf. Kids learn more from respectful actions than your repeated words so talk once, twice at most, then DO something.
2. Shout to be heard. You are better off going below the noise baseline to get their attention rather than raising your voice.
3. Set limits too late. Set a limit a few weeks after new object or situation is introduced (e.g. kids get a new mobile phone, teen starts going out at night) and suddenly you are seen to be taking away a freedom. Set limits first then loosen them up later.
4. Set no limits. Boundaries, rules, expectations and standards teach kids what’s expected. Boys love them. They also like to push against them so you need a firm backbone.
5. Fail to follow through. Talk! Threaten! Nag! No way! See No. 1 above
To read the full 10 mistakes, please click here.
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